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When you tell your child to clean her room, is she arguing, whining, or protesting? You have to change this: she has to understand that when you speak to her that you mean for her to follow your instructions. This can be accomplished by taking control of your life and changing the way you are handling the situation. Sometimes people will look at a child who is giving problems at school and then take a look at the parents and say something to the effect that well what else would you expect from those parents, you don't want to be one of those parents they speak about at all,
now do you, no you don't. Let's try something different and see if it helps.
As we know each child is unique, naturally a parent has to deal each child sometimes in a different manner. Some children just respond to discipline and accept it, others do not. Children who don't respond easily to discipline put a lot of stress on a parent as well know already. Parents actually have a great deal of influence on a child's behavior, lots and lots. Experts have found that children with behavior problems and conduct problems usually have parents who have ineffective discipline techniques.
To be a really effective parent you will need to do a few things such as: set strict and firm limits, be consistent in the manner in which you handle your children, enforce those strict and firm limits, most of all let's provide love, attention and concern and have respect for our children. When we show respect for our children and demand respect for ourselves we are building self esteem. We also need to praise our children when they obey the rules we set forth for them.
We don't need to be negative all the time. Love can change our lives and our children's lives and effective parenting by setting strict and firm limits and enforcing can make a difference in your child's adult life, always remember that.
You want to first of all establish a very loving and affectionate relationship but still be firm. If for an example your child wants to spend the night at a neighbor's and you just don't approve of their lifestyle and don't feel your child would be safe there, you need to explain the reason, not a lot of detail, but that you are the parent and he is the child and that your decision is final and be firm, do this is a loving way, not a stern and harsh way and you can have respect both ways.
Try to not always be critical of your child, look at the positive sides of his personality and try to improve the ones that aren't as you feel they should be. The way a parent shows handling of a misbehavior means the difference in how the child is affect and whether the misbehavior continues or stops. Have a really good understanding of discipline techniques and be consistent. Here's wishing you the best possible relationship between you and your child. It's all in your attitude and how you handle yourself.
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